When Is Being Known or Adored by Romantic Partners Most Beneficial? Self-Perceptions,Relationship Length,and Responses to Partner's Verifying and Enhancing Appraisals
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When Is Being Known or Adored by Romantic Partners Most Beneficial? Self-Perceptions,Relationship Length,and Responses to Partner's Verifying and Enhancing Appraisals
An experiment tested the hypothesis that relationship length moderates preferences for both verifying and enhancing appraisals from romantic partners, particularly for people with negative self-perceptions. One hundred and three romantically involved couples participated in this research. Participants with both negative and positive self-perceptions were randomly assigned to receive either verifying or enhancing feedback ostensibly created through comparison of their self-ratings and their partner's appraisals. The critical test was for those with negative self-ratings who received verifying feedback. For these participants, results revealed that those in longer relationships felt their partners were seeing the best in them more than did those in shorter relationships, whereas the opposite pattern of results was observed for those who were enhanced. Individuals with negative self-ratings who were verified also reported greater feelings of intimacy in the relationship when in long-term relationships. The importance of relationship length in moderating responses to partner's appraisals is discussed.
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