Embracing Endings: Unveiling the Connection Between Final Conversations,the Opportunity Model for Presence,and Coping With the Death of Our Parents

Abstract

This study examines adult children’s loss of a parent through final conversations and communal coping. By looking at survivors’ experiences through the lens of the opportunity model for presence (OMP) during the end-of-life (EOL) process, a model that provides a path of engagement leading to a good or bad death and consequent bereavement processes, we quantitatively test the relationships between two communication constructs before and after death of a parent. While final conversations as one construct did not lead to appraisal or action coping, results illustrate that final conversation topics of identity, instrumental, love, and everyday talk, were significantly related to shared appraisal. Instrumental talk and love were significantly related to joint action. Joint action and shared appraisal together led to participants engaging in all three types of coping. Final conversations as a whole, was important for bereavement outcomes, whereas communal coping’s role in these relationships was convoluted.

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end-of-life communal coping final conversations opportunity model for presence bereavement

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