An Exploration of the Experiences,Wellbeing and Survival Tactics of Older Widowers in Ekiti State,Nigeria

Abstract

Men in old age usually receive less attention than their female counterparts due to physiological, social and cultural influences. Older widowers are not left out of this reality. This study explored the experiences, lifestyles and coping mechanisms of elderly widowers within the family and community networks in selected rural communities in Ekiti State, southwest Nigeria. Findings revealed that living without their spouses was challenging. Notwithstanding, the participants were able to navigate these hurdles through personal commitment to life and the supports. Coping within a patriarchal society is challenging for elderly males; many of them however did not see it as insurmountable.

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Africa Nigeria older males vulnerability widowhood

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