Social Networks of Aging Gay Men

Abstract

Social support becomes an increasingly important resource for people as they age. Research has shown that the needs of older gay men are no different than those of their heterosexual counterparts, nor are older gay men more isolated than older men in general. Research has shown gay men rely on friendship networks more often than on family while heterosexual men rely more on family for social support. Using the most conservative estimates, there are more than two million gay men over the age of 60 in the United States. Results from the first large-scale research project of caregiving in the gay and lesbian communities in NYC challenge the myth of the isolated aging gay man. Two hundred-thirty three gay men, ages 50–87, reported an average of five friends, with whom they were close. Thirty-six percent were partnered, and nearly 90% reported at least fair health and being at least somewhat satisfied with their lives, despite 30% reporting feelings of depression. Results dispel the myth that gay men are not involved with their biological families; when present, biological family members were close to and maintained contact with respondents. Yet relatives were much less likely to be called upon for help. Respondents were most likely to turn to partners, if available, followed by friends.