26.In citing Benhabib’s formulation of the difference between the two standpoints, I do not mean to say that she agrees with Adorno, Derrida or Christoph Menke on the ultimate incompatibility of the two standpoints. While I cannot show this here, I believe the ‘moral conversation’ (Benhabib (n. 11)) or the ‘interactive universalism’ (Benhabib (nn. 9, 10)) she opposes to Rawls’s ‘original position’ and, later, to Habermas’s two-discourse approach, merely cover over the conflict and the interdependence between the two standpoints. This is because she sees the perspective of the concrete other, for the most part at least, as a mere addition that must also be present in discourse, as e.g. in the following formulation: ‘What such discourses can generate are not only universalistically prescribable norms, but also intimations of otherness in the present that can lead to the future’ (Benhabib (n. 9), p. 93). Habermas, by contrast, recognizes that the principle of appropriateness, and with it the demand to assume the standpoint of the concrete other, is part of the meaning of moral validity. The dependence of the generalized other on the concrete other is thus not only empirical, as it is when we merely say, with Benhabib, that ‘we are children before we are adults, and that the nurture, care, and responsibility of others is essential for us to develop into morally competent, self-sufficient individuals’ (Benhabib (n. 10), p. 191). If the care relation, however indispensable for the kind of beings we are, is distilled as the taking of the perspective of the concrete other apart from its affective ties of friendship or love, it becomes more visible how indispensable it is ‘meta-theoretically’ at the heart of the ‘discursive procedure’ itself, rather than being of concern merely in addition to it: Meta-theoretically, I am committed to the position that the discursive procedure alone and not some additional moral principles of utility or human well being define the validity of general moral norms. Yet as a discourse theorist who is also a feminist, the needs and well-being of the concrete other are as much of a concern to me as the dignity and worth of the generalized other. (Ibid. p. 191)