This essay explores concepts of love within the therapeutic relationship. Much has been written about the client's love for the therapist, but relatively little from the perspective of the therapist's love for the client. This article seeks to consider why this may be so, and then to offer a case study to illustrate how love did develop between myself, as therapist, and one of my clients, whom I shall call Suzie, to preserve her anonymity. The case study highlights how our therapeutic relationship developed and the conclusions I drew when the therapy ended.
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