Mothers of daughters approaching adolescence often find themselves navigating the complexities of encouraging independence while maintaining open, healthy communication. Grappling with this dynamic can sometimes lead to conflict. This autoethnographic piece explores ways family stories and memories of mothers and daughters shed insight into how we understand ourselves as parents. Through a series of family vignettes, the author draws upon Ellis’s themes of independence and dependence as an entry point into reflections on how mothers and daughters negotiate the entanglement of interconnectedness.
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