Relational-Cultural Theory (RCT) describes the process of connection and disconnection that is inevitable in relationship. Understanding how we can navigate and recover from connection and disconnection in our relationships with loved ones serves to develop relational resilience. In this article, the author will share an approach to couples communication, grounded in RCT, which may help increase the ability for couples to communicate their moments of connection and disconnection to one another to foster relational resilience. Two case examples are shared that exemplify the step by step process of incorporating this relational cultural approach in practice.
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