Therapeutic Considerations in Working With the Family,Friends,and Partners of Transgendered Individuals

Abstract

Family, friends, romantic partners, and other loved ones of transgendered relatives may experience denial, anger, and depression during the coming-out process. Cognitively, families and friends likely need to ask questions and understand the implications of having a transgender loved one in their family. Families need to mourn any perceived losses and reconcile changes to the family identity and the transgender relative’s personal identity. Therapists can help families by giving them space, alone and later with the transgender loved one, to express themselves. Validating emotions, increasing social support, and providing accurate information on transgenderism are important components of therapy. With appropriate professional guidance, family, friends, and partners can learn to appreciate a transgendered loved one and strengthen family bonds.

Keywords

transgendered individuals gender dysphoria family support therapeutic considerations

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