Couples’dilemmas revolve around vantage points in their relationships. Besides personal needs and wants, there are personally competing internally and externally defined forces that mire establishment of meaningful relationships. These competing forces are consequences of role-definition, and in the presumption of leadership (or the lack thereof) as expressed in a partner or both. Struggles for roles (or, to lead or not to) embody internal and external factors. Internal factors are derivations of personal life circumstances, events and conditions of a partner introduced or reenacted within the relationship. These factors are often aligned with a personal ideal to be realized in the other, or stem from a partner’s view of self in relation to the other. External factors include prioritization of needs and wants, expectations, roles, and perspectives of couples. Clinical observations of clients indicate that interaction effects of unresolved intrinsic and extrinsic concerns can lead to separation or divorce.
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