Naming the Pain: Grief-Ism,Grief-Ist,and the Linguistics of Loss

Abstract

This article introduces two new terms, Grief-ism and Grief-ist, to expose some of the behaviors, actions, inactions, and unrealistic expectations of others (from individual support persons to societal institutions) towards bereaved individuals. In this article, we provide examples of subtle prejudice, discrimination, and marginalization involving those adjusting to significant loss. As well, this work draws attention to the medicalization and policing of the process of grief by well-meaning others. We believe these actions accumulate over time, weigh down those who are grieving loss, and tend to make the grief feel unsupported. As a result, people coping with the loss of a loved one may experience feelings of isolation and, in some cases, a lengthening of the grief process. Our goal is to contribute to ongoing grief literacy efforts and bring attention to how we might improve support for people processing loss. Ultimately, this article highlights the cumulative common burdens of grieving individuals and introduces new terms to consider in hopes of aiding those suffering in bereavement.