This paper addresses bereavement of young siblings of security personnel in Israel. It focuses on their needs and their satisfaction. It examines interactions between the siblings, their parents, and professional helpers in this respect. This paper is based on a qualitative study utilizing focus groups of adult bereaved siblings, bereaved parents, and professional helpers. The cross-referencing analysis of the findings revealed distinct patterns of behavior, family dynamics, and interactions with professional helpers, often causing the needs of young bereaved siblings to remain unmet. Professional intervention with young bereaved siblings is recommended through all stages of bereavement, in order to better meet their needs.
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