This conceptual article examines the structure and dynamics of the lesbian stepfamily. It argues for adopting a strengths perspective by considering the lesbian stepfamily as a distinctive family style in its own right Drawing upon the research literature on heterosexual stepfamilies, the article reviews the similarities and differences between these family styles. These include: parents' gender; family variations; stereotypes and social attitudes toward nontraditional families; formal marriage; previous losses; residential and nonresidential family members; parenting; and ambiguous role expectations. The article advocates culturally-appropriate practice tailored to the needs of lesbians within their family systems and considers implications for social work research.
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