Russell and the Handshake: Greeting in Spiritual Care

Abstract

One of the most common practices in spiritual care involves welcoming or greeting others. Despite this, there is little literature exploring this practice in terms of how it is experienced by those we greet, how it impacts people and relationships, and how it should occur. By reflecting on several stories of handshakes and greeting, this paper seeks to call to attention the experience, impact, and “how-to” of greeting in spiritual care.

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Spiritual care counseling greeting handshake

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