Couples who are emotionally estranged even though they live together cannot really commit to each other. Their relationship is usually interwoven with painful, mostly unconscious and unaddressed attachment issues. These couples are characterized by a constant fear of intimacy, the leaving/approaching dynamics which provoke further fear in one of the partners and is therefore unstopable. With the help of therapeutic interventions, we will search for the roots of their avoidant behavior and try to creatre a save, intimate place which we call a sacred place, where the healing process can begin.
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