Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg's 2022 book, On Repentance and Repair: Making Amends in an Unapologetic World, questions the conventional wisdom that being quick to forgive is a virtue. Unless the person who has caused harm has acknowledged the harm, started to change, made restitution, apologized, and is now making different choices, forgiveness is not just unwarranted, it is potentially harmful to individuals and societies.
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