This qualitative study illuminates the experience of mothers exposed to the intimate partner violence (IPV) of their daughters. In-depth interviews with 11 exposed mothers were conducted. The findings reveal four semi-chronological phases in the participants’ experiences: pre-disclosure of the daughter’s abuse, the first definitive encounter with the daughter’s abuse, living with continued exposure to the daughter’s IPV, and the aftermath of the daughter’s IPV. A recurrent theme in the mothers’ experiences was their dual positioning as a forgotten victim of IPV and as a caregiver of their daughter shaped by prevalent motherhood ideologies. Possible implications for intervention are discussed.
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