The Rational-Emotive Therapy (RET) approach to family therapy holds that people largely disturb themselves emotionally when they take their socially learned goals, standards, values, and preferences and irrationally reconstruct them into absolutist, inflexible demands on themselves, on others, and on world conditions. Acquiring a philosophy of acceptance would significantly help people's personal, mamrage, andfamily relationships. This philosophy includes accepting human fallibility, demandingness, some degree of responsibility for one's own disturbance, unconditional self-acceptance, and unconditional acceptance of others. A number of cognitive, emotive, and behavioral methods of RET to help mamage and family therapy clients to achieve these kinds of acceptance are presented in this article.
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