This article proposes an adaptation of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples to serve nonmonogamous clients. This article also discusses the risks of failing to adapt therapeutic models to consider individuals who practice polyamory and research to date on attachment styles and polyamory. The authors suggest EFT as an efficacious approach to working with polyamorous individuals seeking therapy and provide a case illustration of a three-person polyamorous group, or triad.
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