Alfred Adler’s wisdom regarding the major life task of love and intimacy is extremely relevant in today’s world of fragile marital relationships. The need to promote a feeling of significance and a sense of belonging is under attack from inadequate preparation, education, knowledge, and interpersonal skill development regarding the important life task of love and intimacy. Alfred Adler stated, “Of all the institutions which have been developed to better the relationship of sexes, co-education is the most important.” Obviously, he was acutely aware of the importance of mutual respect, cooperation, and encouragement that is necessary to meet the needs of one’s spouse to ensure an enriched lifetime relationship. This article discusses the need for optimal process as well as the benefits of developing a premarital program that aims to help prepare and equip couples for the rigors and joy of a lifetime commitment.
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