The author summarizes and provides an annotated bibliography based on 18 years of writing the ‘‘For Couples’’ column in The Family Journal. Articles are organized utilizing Jay Haley’s (1973) four ways of assessing couples including: understanding and respecting personality differences; role perceptions; communication skills; and problem-solving skills. The author also describes eight guidelines and recommendations for others writing about couple relationships.
Bach, R. ( 1977). Illusions: The adventures of a reluctant Messiah. New York, NY: Delta.
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Baute, P., & Eckstein, D. ( 1993). Rules for a structured separation. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 2, 276.
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Duffey, T., Somody, C., & Eckstein, D. ( 2009). Musical relationship metaphors: Using a musical chronology and the emerging life song with couples. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 17, 146-150.
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Eckstein, D. ( 1993). Games married couples play: Two theoretical perspectives . The Family Journal, 1, 173-176.
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Eckstein, D. ( 1994). Force-field analysis as an aid in decision making for couples. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 2, 371-372.
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Eckstein, D. ( 1997). Reframing as a specific interpretive counseling technique . Journal of Individual Psychology, 53, 420-428.
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Eckstein, D. ( 1999). Styles of conflict management. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 6, 239-242.
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Eckstein, D. ( 2000a). The four directions of encouragement. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 8, 406-415.
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Eckstein, D. ( 2000b). The Pet Relationship Impact Inventory (PR II). The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 8, 192-198.
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Eckstein, D. ( 2001a). Counseling is the answer ... but what is the question?The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 9, 459-463.
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Eckstein, D. ( 2001b). The #1 Priority Questionnaire (#1 PQ) for couples & families. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 10, 439-442.
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Eckstein, D. ( 2002a). The Couples Enneagram Questionnaire (CEQ). The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 10, 101-108.
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Eckstein, D. ( 2002b). Walls and windows: Closing and opening behaviors for couples and families. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 10, 343-344.
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Eckstein, D. ( 2004a). The ‘‘A’s and H’s’’ of healthy relationships. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 12, 414-418.
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Eckstein, D. ( 2004b). Reframing as an innovative problem solving approach: Turning a perceived inability into an asset. Korean Journal of Thinking and Problem Solving, 14, 37-47.
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Eckstein, D., & Axford, D. ( 2000). Loving and being loved: Commitment implications. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 7, 185-186.
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Eckstein, D., Byles, T., & Bennett, S. ( 2007). A linguistic asking, promising, asserting, and declaring couples communication activity. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 15, 62-64.
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Eckstein, D., Clement, F., & Fierro, A. ( 2006). The role of image exchange with couples. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 14, 71-76.
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Eckstein, D., & Cohen, L. ( 1998). The Couple’s Relationship Satisfaction Inventory (CRSI): 21 points to help enhance and build a winning relationship. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 6, 155-158.
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Eckstein, D., & Cooke, P. ( 2005). The seven methods of encouragement for couples. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 13, 342-350.
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Eckstein, D., & Ford, R. ( 2000). The role of temperament in understanding couple’s personality preferences. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 7, 298-301.
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Eckstein, D., Juarez-Torres, R., & Perez-Gabriel, A. (2006). The Language Relationship Questionnaire, (LRQ). The Family Journal, 14, 408-411.
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Eckstein, D., Junkins, E., & McBrien, R. ( 2003). Ha, ha, ha: Improving couple and family healthy humor quotient (HHQ). The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 11, 301-305.
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Eckstein, D., & La Grassa, L. ( 2005). The non-violent relationship quotient (NVRQ). The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 13, 205-211.
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Eckstein, D., Levanthal, M., Bentley, S., & Kelley, S. ( 2000). Relationships as a three-legged sack race. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 7, 399-405.
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Eckstein, D., Li, C., & Lin, Y. ( 2008). The use of Ed DeBono’s ‘‘six-thinking hats’’ problem-solving technique with couples. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 16, 254-257.
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Eckstein, D., Love, P., Aycock, K., & Wiesner, V. ( 2008). The Couples Gender-Based Questionnaire (CGQ). The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 16, 166-170.
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Eckstein, D., & Morrison, J. ( 2000). Exploring different ‘‘expressions’’ of love. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 7, 75-76.
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Eckstein, D., & Sarnoff, D. ( 2007). Four Adlerian metaphors applied to couples counseling . The Journal of Individual Psychology, 63, 333-338.
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Eckstein, D., & Shapiro, S. ( 2004). The Guiding Self-Ideal Questionnaire (GSIQ): Relationship implications. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 12, 11-20.
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Eckstein, D., Sperber, M., & McRae, S. ( 2009). Forgiveness: Another relationship ‘‘F word’’-a couple’s dialogue. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 17, 256-262.
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Eckstein, D., Sperber, M., & Miller, K. ( 2009). A couples activity for understanding birth order effects: Introducing the Birth-Order Research Questionnaire (BOIQ). The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 17, 342-349.
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Eckstein, D., Welch, D., & Gamber, V. ( 2001). The process of early recollection reflection (PERR) for couples and families. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 9, 203-209.
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Garrison, R., & Eckstein, D. ( 2009). Four couples’ sleep satisfaction interviews: Recommendations for improving your nights together. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 17, 58-63.
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Gibran, K. ( 2010). On love. Retrieved December 5, 2010, from http://www.katsandogz.com/onlove.html
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Ginsburg, P., & Eckstein, D. ( 2010). The staying together in needy times (STINT) couples questionnaire . The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 18, 310-320.
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Ginsburg, P., Eckstein, D., Lin, Y., Li, C., & Mullener, B. ( 2010). The noble eightfold relationship matrix (NERM). The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 18, 427-437.
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Goldman, A., & Eckstein, D. ( 2001). The Couple’s Gender-Based Communication Questionnaire (CGCQ). The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 9, 62-74. Haley, J. (1973). Uncommon therapy. New York, NY: Norton.
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Holt, M., Devlin, J., Brandé Flamez, B., & Eckstein, D. ( 2009). Using the Holt Relationship Intimacy Questionnaire (HRIQ): What intimacy means to you and your partner. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 17, 139-145.
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Hydock, R., & Eckstein, D. ( 2006). Help me help you: The 4-factor goal support system. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 14, 113-118.
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Jones, J., & Eckstein, D. ( 1999). Thirty-three suggestions for couple’s conflict resolution. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 6, 334-336.
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Kirk, A., Eckstein, D., Serres, S., & Helms, S. ( 2007). A dozen relationship commitment considerations. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 15, 271-276.
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Kopp, R., & Eckstein, D.A. (2004). Using early recollections and client-generated metaphors in Adlerian therapy. Journal of Individual Psychology, 60, 163-174.
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Kortman, S., & Eckstein, D. ( 2004). Winnie-the-Pooh: A ‘‘honey jar’’ for me and you. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 12, 67-77.
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Lessin, A., Lessin, J., Eckstein, D., & Kaufman, J. ( 2005). Five ways of assessing couple’s relationships. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 13, 491-495.
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Li, C., Len, Y., & Eckstein, D. ( 2007). The cultural relationship matrix (CRIM): Four activities for couples. The Family Journal, 15, 143-151.
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Mansager, E., & Eckstein, D. ( 2002). The Transformative Experience Questionnaire (TEQ): Spirituality in a couple’s context. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 10, 227-233.
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Milliren, A., Milliren, M., & Eckstein, D. ( 2007). Combining socratic questions with the ‘‘ADAPT’’ problem-solving model: Implications for couple’s conflict resolution . The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 15, 415-419.
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Nelson, J., Li, C., Eckstein, D., Ane, P., & Mullener, W. ( 2008). Antidotes for infidelity and prescriptions for long lasting relationships: Four couples’ activities. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 16, 375-378.
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Page, L., & Eckstein, D. ( 2003). Full Resource Partnering Questionnaire (FRPQ). The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 11, 413-419.
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Page, L., Nisan, L., Eckstein, D., & Ane, P. ( 2008). The intimacy task inventory: Taking a relationship snapshot . The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 16, 83-86.
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Schutz, W.C. ( 1958). FIRO: A three dimensional theory of interpersonal behavior . New York, NY: Holt, Rinehart, & Winston.
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Willhite, R., & Eckstein, D. ( 2003). The angry, the angrier, and the angriest relationships . The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 11, 202-209.
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Wines, L., Nelson, J.A., & Eckstein, D. ( 2007). Reframing class scheduling: Seven school counselor benefits, challenges, considerations, and recommendations. Journal of School Counseling, 5. Retrieved from http://www.jsc.montana.edu/articles/v5n16.pdf
