A violation of trust in intimate relationships is one of the most difficult presenting problems for partners to overcome. It is also difficult for clinicians to assist in the process of restoring the relationship. This article offers a technique for couples therapy that applies the construct of forgiveness through the metaphorical enactment of a ritual. Forgiveness is defined as the giving up of one’s right to hurt another in return for being hurt. Using a case study, the authors present a technique that uses the common items of a flowerpot, potting soil, and bulbs to implement an intervention that facilitates forgiveness and growth.
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