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Abstract

Confrontation is described as a core interpersonal skill. The "state of the art" is outlined and practical ways of developing this skill are presented. Since con frontation is "strong medicine" in interpersonal dialogue, many fear both being confronted (they have witnessed the destructiveness of irresponsible con frontation) and confronting (the MUM effect). Confrontation is seen basically as an invitation to explore both attitudes and behavior in community (in a dyad or a larger group). Berenson and Mitchell's five types of confrontation (didactic, expe riential, strength, weakness, and encouragement to action) are explained and illus trated. A facilitative, nonpunitive approach to confrontation is proposed, together with practical suggestions for making confrontation less threatening to others. It is suggested that group members must earn the right to confront another through such behaviors as relationship-building, support, and willingness to deal with self. De fensive response to confrontation is illustrated through cognitive dissonance the ory. Finally, criteria for responding creatively to confrontation are elaborated.

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