Mothers and Others

Abstract

Being a mother is a serious business in India, and much cultural activity is devoted to preparation for motherhood, a role that enjoys special status. This paper is based on the narrative of one Indian woman as she weaves her story of motherhood in response to interview questions. Kamla's responses bring out dramatic generalisations, serious presumptions and strong beliefs, all in the process of presenting her views. Kamla was selected for many reasons. She was enthusiastic to participate in the research, and requested a recording of the session as she wanted to preserve it for her grandchildren. She viewed herself as the custodian of the dying Indian tradition that appeared to be slipping away between her fingers as modernisation takes over. The discussion centred around the main themes emerging from her observations. It was argued that her views are neither contrary to the prevailing cultural beliefs, nor a minority voice.

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