Employing the method of systematic self-observation to study a meaningful nonaction in everyday life, this research found that compliments are regularly withheld from a deserving party in competitive situations and when there is an upwelling of critical sentiment. The normative complex and structural nature of compliments contribute to there being a means of covertly managing disaffiliative sentiments.
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