Book Reviews : The Dance of Intimacy. By Harriet Goldhor Lerner. New York: Harper & Row,1989,255 pp.,$17.95 (hardbound). Don't Blame Mother: Mending the Mother-Daughter Relationship. By Paula J. Caplan. New York: Harper & Row,1989,256 pp.,$17.95 (hardbound

Book Reviews : The Dance of Intimacy. By Harriet Goldhor Lerner. New York: Harper & Row,1989,255 pp.,$17.95 (hardbound). Don't Blame Mother: Mending the Mother-Daughter Relationship. By Paula J. Caplan. New York: Harper & Row,1989,256 pp.,$17.95 (hardbound