Mystification and Power Games in Couples Therapy

Abstract

This article defines a common type of couple in therapy as a system of perceived asymmetrical power in which the individuals believe that one has more power than the other. Differences between actual power distribution in the system and power distribution as perceived by the couple are highlighted. Clinical examples are given to illustrate this kind of power system, which is investigated in relation to three variables: authentic, although often covert, requests (as opposed to those expressed verbally and overtly); the different positions of the members of the couple; and the two basic mechanisms of control and power: mystification and power games. These variables are presented as a series of integrated mechanisms, and interventions for confronting this kind of a power system are described.