An interpersonal terminology differentiating walls and boundaries in relationships is introduced. Healthy development is defined as a joint function of the capacities for autonomy and intimacy. A bidimensional concept of interpersonal distance is presented, and differential distancing patterns are examined. The author describes a formal measuring instrument, “The Individuation-Attachment Questionnaire (IAQ),” which was designed to assess interpersonal distancing positions. A multistage, multilevel model of interpersonal development is introduced that defines successful growth as the gradual replacement of walls by boundaries. Healthy and pathological axes are differentiated, and appropriate intervention is suggested.
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