Abstract
This article provides a perspective on how to restore positive sexuality in long-term relationships. Concepts from transactional analysis—such as working from an “I'm OK, You're OK” position, challenging injunctions, finding new permissions, and strengthening Adult functioning—are integrated into an approach that considers both the wider social perspective of relationships and recent literature highlighting the importance of differentiation and awareness of overattunement.
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