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Tangled threads of romantic conflict: The intersection of generation,culture,and socio-demographics in shaping Chinese women’s romantic conflict styles
Interpersonal conflict research has traditionally emphasized cultural determinants of conflict styles while overlooking their context-sensitive nature. Addressing this gap, our study examines how generational differences, cultural values, and socio-demographic factors relate to romantic conflict management among Chinese women. The evolving conflict styles reflect how macro-social changes influence interpersonal relationships, capturing the dynamic interplay between tradition and modernity. Drawing from Rahim and Ting-Toomey’s conflict frameworks, we examined seven conflict styles through a multi-generational online survey (N = 469): dominating, avoiding, obliging, productive integrating, third-party help, emotional expression, and passive-aggressive. Results revealed distinct generational patterns, with Gen X (Chinese women born in 1960–1979) reporting higher use of power-oriented approaches (e.g., dominating and avoiding) compared to younger generations, who indicated greater inclinations toward problem-solving strategies (e.g., third-party help and obliging). Cultural values emerged as significant correlates, with individualism positively associated with both confrontational (dominating) and indirect strategies (passive-aggressive), whereas collectivism was positively related to cooperative approaches (productive integrating and obliging) but negatively related to avoidance. Socio-demographic characteristics, including argument frequency, education, and relationship status, were also significantly related to conflict styles, highlighting the influence of contextual variability in romantic conflict management. Our findings offer both theoretical insights and practical guidance for romantic relationship counseling and conflict resolution interventions.
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