The process by which a man may re-learn the ways in which he relates to men and women can be difficult and painful, causing a great deal of emotional stress. Ted Perry, of Nottinghamshire Probation Service, until recently working with sex offenders at HMP Whatton, a specialist unit for vulnerable prisoners, identifies how men need to support each other in restructuring their own relationships at the same time as they attempt to work uncollusively with male perpetrators of sexual abuse.