Recent work, recognizing that topic avoidance embodies issues central to the field of interpersonal communication, has called for a better understanding of how topic avoidance corresponds with relationship progression. The authors employ a model of relationship development to deduce predictions about how topic avoidance may coincide with intimacy and relational uncertainty. They attend to topic avoidance in terms of the number of topics people avoid and the outcomes they anticipate from communicating about those avoided topics. They report a cross-sectional study in which 216 individuals identified and evaluated topics they avoid within a romantic relationship. With some exceptions, results supported hypotheses predicting that (a) intimacy and topic avoidance share a convex curvilinear association, (b) relational uncertainty and topic avoidance share a positive association, and (c) relational uncertainty mediates the association between intimacy and topic avoidance. They discuss how their findings illuminate topic avoidance within courtship.
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