Differentiation of Self and Christian Spiritual Maturity: Social Science and Theological Integration

Abstract

Differentiation of Self (DoS) is a social science construct that is useful for an integrative conceptualization of Christian spiritual maturity. Differentiated relationality has its theological grounding in the Trinity. This article outlines interdisciplinary perspectives in social science, cultural diversity, biblical data, systematic theology, and spiritual formation to suggest DoS as a Christian spiritual maturity construct. Practical applications and implications for further empirical and theological research are outlined.

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