This article offers a critical reflection on an allegory, “The Horse on the Dining-Room Table,” by Richard A. Kalish. After a brief review of Kalish's prolific publications during the mid-1960s to the late 1980s, the article turns to a detailed analysis of the three parts of the allegory. Next, there is a comparison of “The Horse on the Dining-Room Table” to a poem, “There’s an Elephant in the Room,” by Terry Kettering, with a table listing some similarities between the two texts. The article concludes with four lessons to learn from "The Horse on the Dining-Room Table.”
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