The father-son relationship holds archetypal power. It is a powerful relationship containing inherent seeds of conflict. Qualitative methods of multiple case studies and grounded theory were used to investigate reconciliation between fathers and sons. A 45-item, 5-point Likert-type scale instrument was developed as a screening measure to determine those fathers and sons who have experienced reconciliation and positive change in their relationship. A 25-item, 5-point Likert-type scale instrument was developed to assess the impact of the interview process on the participants. Through qualitative analyses of interviews from six pairs of fathers and adult sons, eight qualities of a reconciled relationship and 12 factors in the reconciliation process emerged. The process of reconciliation had impacts on these men’s overall well-being and had great personal and transpersonal relevance to the 12 men involved in this study.
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