“How Could You Give Your Child Away?” Birth Parents’ Experiences of Microaggressions

Abstract

Birth parents are the most stigmatized and least researched part of the adoption triad and they experience microaggressions from a number of sources. With the recent U.S. Supreme Court decision Dobbs v. Jackson Women’s Health Organization, birth parents’ needs and stories deserve to be elevated. Using the adoption microaggressions framework, this qualitative study examined birth parents’ lived experiences and the microaggressions they have heard and internalized. Microaggressions specific to birth parents and the adoption process were identified. The most frequently occurring microaggressions against birth parents included: Shameful Inadequate, Institutional Microaggressions, and Phantom Birth Parents. Implications for counseling and training are provided for working with members of the adoption triad.

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birth parents first parents adoption microaggressions stigma

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