Manifestations of failures in both symbolic and actual flesh-and-blood fathering reveal the inescapable role played by the father’s unconscious transmissions in the ever present triadic matrix. Perelberg’s crucial distinction between the murdered narcissistic father and the dead symbolic father suggests the problematic internalizations that fail to uphold the paternal law required for oedipal resolution. Three father-child narratives derived from classical literature and mythology are presented in order to elucidate significant unconscious paternal fantasies pertaining to lethal rivalry and neglect of the child’s otherness. These narratives suggest how the father’s insufficient management of rivalrous, envious, and murderously aggressive impulses—as well as narcissistic needs that fail to take into account the child’s alterity—combine with the child’s intrapsychic propensities to constrict triangular space and restrict development. Consequently, unavoidable father-child rivalries, absences, neglect, and desires often make it vital to recover the “missing” paternal function in analytic space. A clinical example illustrates the impact of this absence on the analyst’s countertransference.
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